As a mentor you have to cleanse your thinking. You have to take ownership on how you approach anything and everything. Especially on how you approach your mentees. You need to focus on your own frame of mind first. When mentoring someone else, here are the five steps to follow.
Check your own story. What is going on in your mind in regards to the mentorship experience? What is your attitude? Is mentoring a burden? What is happening in front of you and what is the role you play in this interaction?
Get their story. Find out what they are about. What is going on in their mind? Ask them questions. Most importantly, what are their current challenges? Try to capture their point of view.
Dig under their story. You want to get under the first set of facts that you are getting. You want to get to layer 2, 3, 4, and 5. Do not take the surface facts as the be all and end all.
Uncover their beliefs. The way the person thinks is a function of how they see the world. You want to uncover the beliefs of their story.
Challenge their belief. The reason most people don’t succeed is because they have a limitation on how they think. Challenging them means opening them up to the possibility of something new.
Many times mentors fail in their mentoring because they focus on the actions of what the mentee is doing rather than looking at the way they think. The way the person thinks will determine their achievements. By focusing on their thinking instead of just their actions you can have a more lasting impact on the mentee because you can change their beliefs and long-terms behaviors.
David Schnurman is the CEO of Lawline, the leading provider of online Continuing Legal Education (CLE) in the country. The company recently celebrated over 130,000 attorneys on its website with over 2,000,000 courses completed.